Looking back on my relationship with
fashion, there’s one memory that really sticks out to me. I remember being 5
years old and going out to shop with my grandmother, who was and still is my
fashion icon. We were in a children’s clothing boutique when I found this
barrel of little girl’s handbags. I remember my eyes widening and a smile
instantly consuming my face at the sight of this large barrel filled with
small, dainty heart shaped purses in an assortment of bright colors covered
with intricate beading. My grandmother bought me one of the bags and instantly,
I felt like I was on the path to becoming a sophisticated, fashionable, and
beautiful woman, just like her.
This single connection to fashion-
the realization that clothing and accessories could change my outlook on life
and that I could feel glamorous and worthy, would lay the ground work for my
self esteem to build and blossom in the coming years. It was many moments like
these, learning about fashion from my grandmother, that would grow me into the
strong woman that I am today. My grandmother taught me about style in regards
to clothing but also what it means to be a stylish woman. Now I know that being
stylish is more than wearing this season’s “it” color or carrying around a
glitzy bag. It is about having character, showing strength, and having
confidence in your talents and abilities (hence the founding principles of
Fashion Matterns: character, strength, and confidence).
So what does this memory have to do
with Eating Disorders Awareness Week (EDAW)? Well, I firmly believe that this
moment, and several similar ones, prevented me from following the in the
footsteps of my mother who suffers from anorexia. You see, my mother’s battle
with self-esteem was transferred onto me as I grew up under her care. How can a
young girl grow up to respect and love herself when her most important role
model, her mother doesn’t respect and love herself.
In fact, studies and science are
showing that eating disorders stem from more than poor body image. ANAD, the
National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders says in
regards to eating disorders, “Our knowledge at this point indicates that genes
load the gun and the environment pulls the trigger.” In other words if your
family has a history of eating disorders, the genes you inherit from them can
make you more likely or prone to develop an eating disorder. From there, the
environment or experiences you have can bring out those genetic weaknesses and
create a downward spiral that results in a full blown eating disorder. But
thankfully, I had been blessed with many forms of support including a
compassionate grandmother, a curious mind, a strong work ethic, and exposure to
the transformative powers of fashion.
It might be hard to believe that a
form of art or industry or creative outlet that is fashion has had such a
profound affect on my life. And especially that it is fashion- after all,
people criticize fashion for the unrealistically skinny models that walk down
the runways, and for its “materialistic” focus, and its competitive, cut throat,
and critical nature. But for people who believe this viewpoint, or even fuel
this negative side, they do not know fashion as I do. Fashion is suppose to
bring out the best in a person, encourage them to express themselves in crazy
and fun ways, as well as giving them the confidence to take on whatever
challenge they face.
Through the written
pieces, photographs, and other creations on Fashion Matterns, I want people of
all self esteem levels to find inspiration and optimism. For the next seven
days, you will find pieces relating to Eating Disorders Awareness Week here on
Fashion Matterns. Let the fashion and self appreciation begin!
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